Have you ever seen the movie Nim’s Island?
If not, rent it. It’s one of my favorite family movies.
If so, do you remember the scene when Alex is going through airport security and the security guard is throwing away everything in her bag that’s not allowed? And he keeps saying, “Not allowed!” with that hilarious expression on his face?
Imagine me with that same expression on my face saying, “The comparing game is . . . not allowed!”
Sorry, juvenile moment.
Do not compare yourself to someone else.
You are on this journey to become a better version of yourself. Not a better version of someone else.
Looking to other people for inspiration is a good thing, but don’t put them on some kind of pedestal and make them into your goal.
Guess what? That woman you think is so beautiful and you would love it if you could just look like her . . . she doesn’t see herself that way. In fact, there’s someone else she looks to for perfection and then that woman looks to another woman and so on.
I’m not going to look like Julia Roberts when I’m at my goal weight. Shocker.
Or Reese Witherspoon. Again. Shocker.
I’m going to look like myself. Just a little better version of myself.
I’m okay with that. Actually, I’m more than okay with that. Although, there are certainly things I would change about myself if I could there are so many other things I love.
My laugh. My eyes. My freckles. My curly hair.
Those things make me me.
The things I think are beautiful about Julia Roberts are the things that make her her. The same for Reese. If I could somehow take their qualities and mesh them with mine, I would no longer be Ruthanne.
That makes me sad.
You are unique. You are special.
I’m using actresses as examples, but we do this with people all around us, too. The woman at the gym, the grocery store, a friend, neighbor, etc.
When you catch your mind starting to play the comparing game, stop. Filter.