This post has been on my heart for a long time. I kept putting it off and putting it off because I just wasn’t sure how to put into words all that was in my heart. I’m not good with words. They don’t come easy for me.
I received an e-mail last night that gave me the gentle nudge to just go ahead, even if this post ends up reading like a jumbled mess.
I have no idea how i got here. It’s not me. I keep reading your blog updates and think “If she can do it, why can’t I?” But, that little annoying voice creeps back in and says, “Cause you’ve failed at every other attempt to lose weight, why should THIS be any different?” I hate that voice. I want to kill that voice. Do you have the same voice? How did you squash it?
I guess what I’m wanting to ask is: How did you “just start?” What would be some good starting advice to an overweight gal who’s scared to death to lose weight, but even more scared not to? If you could start over and know what you know now, but had to tell someone else that was doing it with you, what would it be?
My motivation for getting healthy was a culmination of little things adding up over time. Walking up stairs was hard. I would be breathing like a dragon by the time I got to the top and it would have only been five stairs. ::snort out loud:: I could barely tie my shoes because my stomach area was so large. I couldn’t do anything active with my family. I would just watch them ride bikes, play soccer, etc. feeling like a big loser. I felt the complete opposite of sexy. I just got sick and tired of feeling like a slob and looking like a slob.
Was I scared? Yes.
I was afraid and embarrassed to tell my husband, yet again, I was going to try and lose weight. He’s always been completely supportive of me and never said anything derogatory. I’ve always felt loved and cherished no matter what size I was or am . . . but, I was still afraid.
I didn’t want to be full of hot air.
I didn’t want to fail. Again.
The thing is ~ I didn’t let that fear keep me from trying.
What if I had made another attempt at losing weight and failed? Would it have been better if I hadn’t tried? Of course not.
My health is worth fighting for.
I decided instead of being afraid of failure, I would embrace it. I would allow it to make me grow. I would allow it to teach me to be stronger and smarter.
The amazing thing was as soon as I made the choice, I felt better. I began to note little victories and they kept me motivated and inspired to press on.
Don’t compare where you are right at this moment to where someone else is. Each of us are at our own unique point on our own unique journeys. Your journey will look different from mine. Mine will look different from the girl next to me in gym class. I’ve heard a quote by Jon Acuff before that goes something like, “Don’t compare your beginning to someone else’s middle.” That resonates so much with me. Be inspired by other people’s journeys, but don’t try to make their journeys your own. Make your own path. The work will be hard, but the work is what will change you.
Want to know something? I’m still afraid.
I’m afraid of gaining the weight back. I’m afraid of losing all the ground I’ve gained over the past eighteen months.
So, I work hard. I don’t allow that fear to swallow me whole. I continue to press on. I continue to carve out my own path.
Here’s the thing . . . if I can do it, you can do it. Any of us can do it. When we decide enough is enough, the will power to start will be there.
You CAN do it.
When that voice in your head starts to tell you that you can’t, you tell it to, “Shut it!”
You CAN do it.
You’re a fighter and you know that your health is worth fighting for.
I’m standing up cheering for you at the top of my lungs!
Here are my top two tips for getting started:
1) Set small goals.
Small goals are key. You want to stay motivated by the little victories you see and feel. Setting small goals will give you a constant source of encouragement and a feeling of moving forward.
Don’t set out saying, “I want to lose 100 pounds!” That’s far too big. I never said that to myself when I started. It was depressing and I felt like it was something I would never be able to attain. I would set monthly goals. “This month I would like to lose so many pounds.” I would focus on smaller chunks of time or smaller units of weight.
2) Make one major change at a time.
If you start changing everything up all at once, you’re going to become overwhelmed. Choose one thing and stick with it for a few weeks before making another change. Slow and steady will win the race you’re setting out to run.
For example, for the next three weeks focus on your water intake. When you feel like you’ve got the hang of that, choose a different area to work on. It may be exercise or maybe cutting back on sugar, but just choose one thing and stick with it for a few weeks. If you continue at that pace, you will have accomplished so much over a six month time span.
P. S. Obviously, I’m not a health professional. I’m just . . . . me. It’s always best to consult your doctor before making any major changes to your lifestyle.